Here is some sound advice about break ups:
1/ you cannot force someone to love you
2/ give your ex space
3/ Don't fight to get them back. The harder you try the further you will push them away
4/ invariably it's only your pride which is hurt
5/ really think about, are they worth having back?
6/ once the trust is gone, it's over
7/ only 41% of all relationships which try again, work
8/ don't put children through a war-zone!!!! It is NOT their fault
9/ don't use children as a weapon
Anyone else wish to add to this list????